Can extramarital affairs actually make a marriage better?

It's not much of a secret - most marriages can get stale over the years, and lose some of that initial luster and excitement. The old adage is true when it comes to marriages and long term relationships - time really is the enemy of passion. Many people choose to explore other options and engage in extramarital affairs after some time, especially if they are feeling that their partner has lost interest in them. Just because someone is involved in extramarital affairs doesn't necessarily have to mean that they are no longer caring for their wife or husband. Rather, extramarital affairs are a sign that that initial spark of passion, that fire is gone, or at least dwindling.

It isn't that common - actually, it's quite rare for both men and women to be able to maintain the same initial level of passion, romance and excitement in their long term relationship or marriage. This is the main reason why people get into extramarital affairs - as much as they hate to let down their partner and cheat, everyone needs romance and passion in their lives, at least from time to time. And if you are not getting what you need from your marriage partner, it's only natural that you will start to look at other ways to fulfill your needs, and extramarital affairs are often the answer.

Some people don't look at extramarital affairs with approval, and believe that dating outside of the marriage is doomed from the start. Most men, as well as women who get involved in extramarital affairs with someone are initially filled with negative emotions like fear, shame and feelings of guilt. After all, even though they might be involved in extramarital affairs, the love for their partner is still there, at least on some level - if that wasn't the case , divorce, rather than extramarital affairs would be the answer to the situation.

Married men seek extramarital affairs for a number of different reasons. For some, it's the thrill of the chase that they can't live without, and they turn to extramarital affairs as a way to recapture some of the allure of their youth. Others use extramarital affairs as a patch, or a way to fight the boredom of their marriage. Some people marry to young, and while they might not even be thinking about the possibility of extramarital affairs in the first few years of their marriage, once the routine sets in and the excitement wears off, they start feeling the urge to go outside their marriage.

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